Survival can look very competent from the outside.
- Scanning the room, anticipating reactions, and settling everyone else before you can settle yourself.
- Going blank, calm, compliant, or intensely practical when something is wrong.
- Wanting closeness and getting alarmed when it arrives.
- Functioning well in public and collapsing in private.
- Explaining the history clearly while feeling almost nothing—or everything at once.
- Feeling ashamed of reactions that once kept you safe.