How I Work
Where we usually start.
What I'm looking for is the place where your coping strategy became the problem — where what helped you manage something hard is now the thing keeping you stuck. That shift usually happens gradually enough that it's hard to see from the inside.
I'll tell you what I see. When I've gotten it wrong, you'll usually know before I do — and that's useful too.
Background
What shapes the way I work.
I grew up in Uganda. This comes up in my work more than you might expect — not because I make it a topic, but because growing up between cultures tends to make you notice the things people assume are universal. How authority functions. Who gets to have needs. What belonging costs. Those questions come up constantly in clinical work.
I've also spent a lot of time in settings that don't look like private practice — residential treatment, crisis work, systems built to run under pressure. What I took from that period was mostly an allergy to things that sound good but don't actually help.